This Season Make Time to Listen

This Season Make Time to Listen

Posted 2015-12-04 by Rachael Millsomfollow

You have heard it before - that Listening is one of the keys to great relationships. yet have you considered what is listening?, and how can you apply it to yourself as well?

What is listening?
Ok so you have decided to hear someone out, so you sit and listen, you tell yourself you are not going to interrupt until they have finished. Then you will have listened. Well this is a good start.

Listening is not just about hearing the words of another, it is paying attention. Notice how the words are impacting on both the speaker and yourself. Look and listen for unspoken messages through body language and eyes. See a person for who they are and what they have to share.

It all sounds simple enough but listening takes energy, it takes time, precious time that at times we don't feel that we have.

How to listen?
Ok so you have decided you are going to give this really listening thing a go. Here are a few tips:

  • Make sure you really have the time to do it properly. There is no point saying you are ready to listen when you need to leave in 5 minutes, maybe you could acknowledge the need and make another time or if possible reconsider if you really need to leave in 5 minutes - can you be a few minutes late or reschedule the next thing?

  • Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes (before you want them to put themselves in your shoes).

  • let them know you understand by rephrasing what they have said in your own words.

  • What about you?
    Yes Listening is an important tool for good relationships - and yes that includes your relationship with yourself.
    Take time to listen to yourself, check in with you. How are you travelling?

    Make time, even if it is one minute to simply be with yourself, without trying to get anything else done. You might like to take a bath, sit under your favourite tree or favourite place in the house and simply be with you.

    Mindfulness and Meditation are also great tools for tuning into you, for listening to you.

    This season, put listening to others and yourself on your to do list, and make it a priority.


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