Ill Admit Im Wrong
We all want to be right, especially during an argument. In a sense I feel as though both sides of a debate can be somewhat right, because usually we are each offering our point of view, which is never really wrong. But sometimes during the heat of a fight or discussion we can't see past our own feelings or thoughts and are simply just reacting.
It can be frustrating when you are trying to prove a point and the other side is not listening. This is when it's time for someone to stop, I believe. Pause to consider the other person's standpoint and even consider that you may very well be wrong.
Although it can sometimes be quite embarrassing to admit you may be wrong, it is also very freeing. When we get fired up I don't think that we are really listening to one another. If I'm not listening to what the other person is saying in order to absorb and consider the information they are giving me, but rather using it to somehow confirm that they are wrong and I am right, then I'm pretty certain they are doing just the same. What a silly circle.
Noam Chomsky, an American Philosopher, Logician and Social Justice Activist once said "If we don't believe in freedom of expression for those we despise, we don't believe in it at all."
And Malcom Gladwell, a Canadian Journalist and best selling Author said "That's your responsibility as a human being - to constantly be updating your positions on as many things as possible. And if you don't contradict yourself on a regular basis, then you're not thinking."
I think that both of these statements offer delicious food for thought. Go ahead and have a taste.
Remembering back many years ago to something I once strongly believed and thinking of my views on it now make me realise that once upon a time I thought I was right, but now can see just how wrong I was. I would essentially be the one arguing with me now.
So, stop every now and then and consider that you might just be wrong about something. Admit it. Don't keep to an argument simply to avoid losing face. Remember that the other person knows something that you don't and even though you too know things they may not, they are likely not to listen and really consider your point of view if you are not going to offer the same in return.
As the Dalai Lama once said "When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know; But when you listen, you may learn something new."
252673 - 2023-07-18 07:40:31
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