Image courtesy of mrsiraphol / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Your tone of voice is everything
Different interpretations of how people communicate can be the biggest breaker when it comes to socialising. It’s very common to hear “It’s not what you said, it’s the way you said it.”
For example, if someone's greeting is a “Hey!” - they're exuding a cheery, upbeat tone; and they're showing a positive attitude as opposed to someone who just says “Hi.” The latter tone is flat and uninviting, which can make people feel a little uncomfortable.
The best way to keep an eye on everyone’s individual’s tone, is by how the vocal cords go up and down in their throats. Only having one particular tone when talking to people, it’s most likely that the closest of friends will know how that person truly feels despite others who are unaware and will possibly assume they only have one tone and emotion. So, an example of showing a positive conversation starter is “How are you?” The tone starts out moderate and rises the pitch on the question mark. “I’m good. How are you?” Anything that ends up in a full stop, the voice should rise and fall on the full stop, as opposed to saying “How are you?” In a flat tone, it can indicate to people that there’s no care factor - let alone answering with something like “I’m fine.” Or “Good.”
It’s surprising when reading this out loud gives a clear indication of how every individual’s voice actually sounds, to what their own interpretation is. Best thing to do is to practice and listen to the voice cords jump or flatten themselves during communication with other people.