Image courtesy of iamharin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Sometimes, no matter how bad it feels, everyone needs a bit of help.
I admit that one of my faults is that I am a rather proud person. Or maybe I just have trouble asking for help. Or admitting that from time to time, I need help. I feel I am relying on people unnecessarily or that they are going to think badly about me for asking for help. This is not the truth. When you check out the facts, most people genuinely would not have guessed that you were in that kind of situation, and thus needed a helping hand. We all need a helping hand from time to time, no matter how clever or self-reliant we think we are. It does not mean we are weak.
I would hate to think that somebody in need felt they could not ask me for a helping hand if I were in a position to give it.
At the moment, what is stopping me for asking for help in particular is that other people I know have their own problems and are in similar situation to me.
However, if I knew that someone could get me a hand and willingly would without resentment, then by all means I think I have learned that I need to ask. I always give back to people who give me things out of kindness, so I know I need not feel guilty about asking.
We all need help from time to time. We are all human, and by that, we are all essentially vulnerable. If you are reading this and can relate, you know already that you are not the type of person to take advantage of people and take things for the sake of taking.
If you do feel guilty, ask if you are in a position to take care of someone or something that needs you right now. It is lucky it is pay day tomorrow, because it means that I able to buy food for my cat, of who needs food more than me.
Asking for help may extend for asking for material help, like groceries; asking for company, or asking for help with a mental or physical illness. It’s never easy, but there’s always people out there who do care, and who will help you if you are brave enough and ask.
Sometimes, I think “Don’t people know that I am struggling”? But how could they, if you have not let on? On this, they are genuinely surprised if you tell them.
However, be brave - you will not always get ‘yes’ as an answer, but you will not know unless you ask.