Home    Subscribe    Write for Us    FAQ    Contact    HubGarden    Login

Unwed

by Mina Keenan (follow)
Mina's Printables:) Self (32)      Marriage (16)      Society (12)      Divorce (3)      Wedding (2)      Respectability (1)     


wedding,unwed,unmarried


There was a teacher I admired at primary school when I was eight years old. A very glamourous woman, she was.

Rumours went around about her being divorced. This was whispered on the playground, along with incredulous stares, hushed voices and giggles. She was some kind of scarlet woman.

I thought she was absolutely marvellous all the same. She certainly didn't go around with a big sign saying 'Shame'.

I played wedding dress-up and watched cartoon princess movies and my folks were a fantastic role model of a good marriage.

Ten years later I was pregnant. I resisted marriage which disappointed the families. Social climate had not changed much and I can remember trying to gauge whether it was more shameful to be divorced, or pregnant - of the two forms of un-wedded-ness.

I went on to have three other children and remained unmarried. Thinking on it now - hindsight, age and all that jazz - the reasons are listed below with varying degrees of intensity.

Expense
Belonging (trap)
Rebellion
A sense of losing self
The children took their Dad's surname, I liked mine. I had 'given' what was humanly possible.

I guess I never really believed a girl could be un-respectable if they weren't wed, had children or lived with a man.

Every now and then I think I would like to be married (at least once) for the experience. You can hyphen names, but there is a bit of old fashioned notion in me that says if you're going to marry - do it the whole hog.

A couple of weeks ago I happened across an English documentary which said marriage was brought in by the government and church for revenue on the premise of making people respectable. However, it was too costly to get married in a church for a lot of people and many got married in pubs by just-out-of-jail scoundrels who decided on a career change and proclaimed themselves Ministers.

Keep in mind - England's efforts to 'civilise' a growing population and the effects that had on the colonies. The history encompasses much more than what I'm talking about here - but you can research for yourself if it interests you.

This only served to delight me - further justifying my reasons.

I do think marriage is great for anyone who wants it, but my cynical self thinks you don't need a license in order to have relations with a special someone - permission to do what human instinct dictates anyway.



# Marriage
# Respectability
# Society
# Wedding
# Divorce
# Self
More Articles by Mina Keenan
Scenario: Talking in front of three year old grandkid
321 views
If a product or service fits in a good way with %%Self Avenue%% I may be compensated with cash o...
62 views
This article was written by Constance Ray of Few things in life are as cut-and-dry as th...
62 views
Images on the net are NOT fair game to take for articles you write
132 views
Where's my undies? Where did I put my glasses? You seen my phone? What did you do with my
412 views
A Gratitude journal does not have to be hard work! Make yourself a small Gratitude Journal ( or b...
888 views
Articles by Mina Keenan on Other Hubs
Grab this boy with florals to colour
76 views
Get your mitts onto these colourful side view Skull posters to hang about the place for your Hallowe...
243 views
Overcast Stitch is simple and easy to learn
154 views
Ghost throwing grenade
52 views
ID: 21285
Trending Articles
Ever since the new year kicked off, social media channels have been abuzz with "new year, new me...
3822 views
Living a healthy lifestyle and seeking regular medical advice can help you to prevent a major ...
86 views
are often quite confusing, and sometimes even the grownups involved don't completely understand wha...
83 views
While there are many alternative transportation options, including rideshare services, carpool...
71 views
In this day and age, many people hire professional escorts because they what to try something ne...
12085 views
I lived the city life and Iím sick of it
726 views
In the past few years, we are increasingly hearing more about the benefits of 'mindfulness'
111 views
You donít have to be rich to make money, you just have to be practical
3848 views
To attain any form of abundance in your life, you must feel good as much as possible
1834 views
Control has its place in the world, in fact in some instances it has some very practical societa...
126 views
Categories
 
Copyright 2012-2018 OatLabs ABN 18113479226. mobile version