“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” *
Lewis B. Smedes
The other day I had a family member accuse me of something I had not done and to say I was upset would be an understatement. I was furious; I wanted to be malicious and arm myself with the best weapons of getting back to this person and declare war.
I felt emotionally drained with all these negative thoughts. Keeping them up and focusing on them kept me from reaching my daily goals. I happen to be a writer and writing under such a negative frame of mind was not possible.
By the end of the day, after trying to keep up my negative emotions towards this person, I finally asked myself wouldn’t it be easier to forgive and let go?
After all what would be the worst scenario if I decided to forgive and move on, not letting a single episode take over my life. The answer I received from myself was quite enlightening. It seems my inner self was sick and tired of the raging war in my head, but my ego wasn’t too happy about letting things be.
Squashing my ego I decided to free my soul from the burden of keeping a grudge and holding on to it like a terrier. And finally in forgiveness I found peace. A deep and tranquil peace which helped release disabling emotions such as anger, frustration, malice and contempt.
Lessons I Learned:
• Anger robs us from being creative and moving forward.
• It is easier to forgive than invest energy in negative emotions.
• Revenge might be sweet for a short time, but the outcome especially where the future is concerned is negative.
• Forgiveness helps us heal while anger makes us cynical and overlook the blessings around us.
We all need to forgive as we all have failed in our own way and at some other time.
What I will not ever do again is leave the baggage behind as they say because that baggage is often knowledge we can use to stay on course into the future.
Forgiven but not forgotten as they say.