ďA daughter is a mother's gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self. And mothers are their daughters' role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all their relationships.Ē ― Victoria Secunda
The mother-daughter bond is one of the most powerful relationships in the world. Itís the foundation for many other relationships.
Growing up watching our mothers, we learn what itís like to be a female, how she takes care of herself and health and her beliefs in life.
How a woman sees herself, interacts with the people around her and how she behaves with her own children is deeply influenced by her relationship with her mother.
When girls are young as five, they believe their mother to be a goddess or queen. They try to mimic her dressing style or the way she talks. By the time girls reach their teens, itís a different story. The once-loved woman who they considered their idol is suddenly too embarrassing to be seen out with.
Mothers usually find it difficult to parent daughters when they hit the troublesome period known as adolescence. If both mother and daughter can somehow sail through this difficult but short period, their relationship might change for the better.
A sense of independence might be the trigger for the shift in their relationship. Once they move away from their childhood home, get jobs and do the things they want, they might want to connect with their parents.
The relationship will change for the better when the daughter has children. There's a greater understanding of the responsibility that you have as a mother to that child. If you had a less-than-perfect relationship with your mother, it doesn't mean you won't have a good relationship with your own daughter.
I'm a big believer in mother-daughter time. I think we don't think about the importance of spending time with our mothers.
Go on regular special outings, just the two of you. Have mother-daughter traditions, such as going on long walks together, dining or making something together.
I have a lot of things in common with my married daughter even though I have been divorced for about twenty years .She has a young baby and lives far from me and while she also has to go out to paid work .Apart from her commitments to her husband We haven't not that luxury of quality time to spend with each other i think that to be able to spend 1 on 1 is almost impossible It is desirable yet realistically not happening It's easy to talk about not so easy to put into action.L H.