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The Means to Find your Own Way

by Millie Clayton (follow)
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How do we find resolutions?


To Talk…

When I trained to become a counsellor of sorts I discovered how to talk people through their problems in order to form resolutions. It went both ways with my class mates in which I would talk about my issues and they would talk about theirs. Being offered a new perspective is great as you become aware of different angles that weren't obvious to you before. What we got taught on that first day was that we are never supposed to give advice. What our aim is to provide guidance in such a way to make someone aware of the path they are supposed to be on. Whilst someone can stray away from what they want in life, it is our job to lead them back in to a point of clarity. This isn't from advice giving but from the way questions are posed.

Friends are an obvious source of comfort. Going to them in times of need you grow to feel loved and supported. This reminds me of the solace experienced when you're warm in bed and can hear the rain tinkering down outside. Personally, I love nothing more than having a conversation with a friend about a problem that has arisen for me. What usually happens after talking to several close confidantes however is that I can become anguished. I am receiving contradictory messages from everyone left, right and centre and it leaves me feeling perplexed. It drives me into a deeper spiral of thought and eventually it made me question how I come to realise certain solutions.

To Write..

It was my lecturer who told me to start writing about inner conflicts that never ceased to persist. At first I thought about how self-indulgent this proposition was. Of course in saying that, I had a very stereotypical 'Dear Diary' type ideal in my mind. After starting to write, I realised I had come across a gold mine. I figured I would only write around half a page. After an hour and seven pages later I managed to look up from my desk, glance around the room and wonder what the hell had happened.

Writing offers something that talking does not. When you talk to someone you often find yourself going round and round in circles becoming increasingly confused as time progresses. What writing offers is the chance to write out your problem or conflict without anyone but yourself listening. You have a conversation with yourself in which you can more easily reach a point of clarity. This makes you discover what you really want eventually or else it just allows you a therapeutic technique to expel all negative emotions out of the tip of your pen.


# Talking
# Counselling
# Therapy
# Writing
# Inner Conflict
# Happiness
# Emotions
# Life
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