Home    Subscribe    Write for Us    FAQ    Contact    HubGarden    Login

The Importance of Self-Praise

by jussiecatwriter (follow)
Mindset (168)      Attitude (155)      Pride (5)      Ego (4)      Self Praise (1)     


A picture of a happy man
Be proud of yourself - praise yourself and you will find yourself becoming the person you want to be.


As I went to bed last night, I was postulating that maybe, if for every negative thought I entertained, if I consequently thought TWO positive thoughts, then maybe I could be a happier person. Afterall, there is a plethora of information which suggests positive thinking can make us happier and motivate us.

However, I found something better, because it made sense when I thought of reinforcement theory, which we learnt about in Psychology. Anything which is classified as ‘reinforcement’ has the effect of increasing a particular behaviour. For example if you praise a child for a particular action, that will increase the probability that that behaviour will be performed more frequently. It is also known that this is vital for a child’s self-esteem and self-concept.

When we get to be adults, we don’t have anyone around who is going to pat us on the back for the majority of the time throughout the day. We may have family or friends who will from time to time, but we really and truly need to champion ourselves.

At first, I thought “well isn’t that a bit self-indulgent?” and “what if what I’ve done isn’t praise-worthy?”

However, deep down I knew this wasn’t the case. Most people are at far greater risk of being far too critical of themselves – you’ll find very few people praise themselves too much.

All the same, it was a difficult thing for me to do. However, I justified it by seeing it as a theoretically proven way to increase behaviours I thought were valued by me. For example, one of my goals is to be healthier in my eating habits. After a day today of eating well, I told myself “Justine that’s great you are eating healthier…for example you ate that silver and almonds today”. Note I included specifics of what I was happy about. Just as self-praising specific behaviours in children works better than generalised praise in terms of making it more frequent, the same is true for adults.

Usually, after I finish the housework, I think “I only did x and x” or “I’ve still got the washing to do” but today I told myself “it’s fantastic I did the dishes, mopped the floors etc today”.

This has worked well for me today, so I intend to keep this up. I felt more positive, more motivated and happier with myself.

You don’t have to self-praise aloud, especially around others. You can just silently smile and pat yourself on the back. There is nothing wrong with being proud of yourself.



Image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net



# Self Praise
# Attitude
# Ego
# Mindset
# Pride
I like this Article - 7
More Articles by jussiecatwriter
Conflict may not be able to be avoided but harm-minimisation is possible
235 views
I have always enjoyed communicating through the written word
250 views
Stay Inspired, and Enthusiasm will follow naturally
165 views
Subtle differences in the %%way%% that we say things to people can make a difference
227 views
We all have goals we would like to achieve
134 views
view all articles by jussiecatwriter
Articles by jussiecatwriter on Other Hubs
People say that animals respond to peoples’ body language
3 likes
I have enjoyed Suzie, my half-manx cat, for more than four and a half years now
6 likes
You may have seen the logo or statements that certain products are not tested on animals- but do y...
5 likes
My Google Plus Profile
ID: 7997
[ Submit a Comment ]
Trending Articles
My boss frightens me
520 views
I lived the city life and I’m sick of it
1140 views
To attain any form of abundance in your life, you must feel good as much as possible
2065 views
Many of us fear to speak our mind because we care about what others might think of us or say abo...
6503 views
How easy it is to allow our ego to bruise our wounds even further
579 views
A lot of memories are built within the walls of houses we call homes over the years
46 views
In this day and age, many people hire professional escorts because they what to try something ne...
12387 views
You don’t have to be rich to make money, you just have to be practical
4075 views
These days there are many ideas and tips about the benefits of owning less stuff
93 views
Understanding the way other people think and feel is a challenge, especially when their ideas an...
1735 views
Categories
 
Copyright 2012-2018 OatLabs ABN 18113479226. mobile version