Home    Subscribe    Write for Us    FAQ    Contact    HubGarden    Login

Respecting Other Peopleís Wishes

by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo) (follow)
I'm a freelance writer living in the beautiful river town of Mannum in SA, dreaming of the day I can retire from the 9-5 to write full time.
Life Skills (425)      Acceptance (110)      Appreciation (43)      Respect (37)      Beliefs (16)      Perspectives (2)     


Woman with Hand Up Saying No
Image Courtesy of Ambro / Freedigitalphotos.net


Understanding the way other people think and feel is a challenge, especially when their ideas and thoughts are very different from our own. When we care about someone we want to respect their way of life and try to see things from their point of view.

But it doesn't stop there. We also need to respect other peopleís wishes, even if we are concerned about them or disagree with their choices.

I've had issues with this for most of my life and I know how frustrating it can be. There was the time that my sister organised a surprise birthday party for me even though she knew I didn't particularly like them. I had planned to go away for my birthday until she told me the party was all arranged, so I ended up doing what she wanted to do instead of what I wanted to do.



Woman with Hand Up Saying No
Image courtesy of anankkml / Freedigitalphotos.net


Then there was the time that I called a painter to quote me on painting the exterior of my house. When I told him what colour I wanted he told me Ďnoí and went on to tell me the colour that he thought would look better. Consequently I didn't hire him. This are just two small examples.

Even if we think that people are making bad choices, itís important to find out the reasons for their choices before we condemn them.



Woman with Hand Up Saying No
Image courtesy of graur razvan ionut / Freedigitalphotos.net


I've known this to happen to others as well. One of the most common examples is in the area of gift-giving. When we buy a gift for someone, itís important to ensure that itís something we know they will love and that will suit their lifestyle and not necessarily something we particularly like ourselves.

I recall one year when my mother asked my sister-in-law what she would like for her birthday. When my sister-in-law asked for a dictionary my mother responded with, ĎWhat a stupid present! Iím not buying you that.í

For me the need to have my wishes respected can be a constant source of guilt. Being an introvert, I donít particularly like social gatherings, busy places or unexpected visitors. Iím not anti-social - itís just a personality trait. Sadly though, most people donít understand and I often find myself either giving in or making poor excuses. When Iím at home itís not uncommon for me to let the phone ring or to not answer the door. I need solitude as a means of recharging after work but many times I've offended people who donít understand this part of my personality.



Woman with Hand Up Saying No
Image courtesy of smarnad / Freedigitalphotos.net


The good thing that comes out of it for me is that I understand the point of view of others like me. As long as someone is happy and living the way they want to without harming others, we need to let them be and to respect their wishes Ė even if we donít agree with them.

# Life Skills
# Acceptance
# Respect
# Perspectives
# Beliefs
# Appreciation
I like this Article - 6
More Articles by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo)
Iím sure youíve heard the expression ĎKeeping up with the Joneses,í but just in case you havenít...
306 views
What does Ďhaving it allí mean to you? Having all of what - everything youíve ever desired? We a...
161 views
There are plenty of good reasons to own a pet, and many different types of pets
217 views
Creative output happens in different ways for different people
164 views
When I was a single mother with young children, night-time was my special Ďmeí time
190 views
In I talked about taking photographs to record the moments of your life, but now Iíd like to go...
165 views
view all articles by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo)
Articles by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo) on Other Hubs
We know how to take care of our own teeth, right? We also know when something is not right with ou...
3 likes
ID: 26551
[ Submit a Comment ]
I love this article - Live and Let Live, beautiful!

Trending Articles
I lived the city life and Iím sick of it
930 views
In this day and age, many people hire professional escorts because they what to try something ne...
12190 views
Money gives us all more choices in life, and is a tool to serve other people
2304 views
To attain any form of abundance in your life, you must feel good as much as possible
1953 views
Without a question, people gravitate towards those who are more physically attractive
280 views
Many of us fear to speak our mind because we care about what others might think of us or say abo...
6283 views
If I wasnít yelling about how Mum ruined the dirty pants I left in a puddle on the floor of my b...
552 views
%%ďOn Easter Day the veil between time and eternity thins to gossamer
426 views
Losing weight at any age can sometimes be hard to do
95 views
%%To be seen and heard for who you are, for what you offer the world is validating
284 views
Categories
 
Copyright 2012-2018 OatLabs ABN 18113479226. mobile version