Free yourself from the comparison trap – Question Your Intention “Image courtesy of Stuart Miles / FreeDigitalPhotos.net"
In life, everyone has a tendency to compare. Not necessarily a bad thing; but the next time you start comparing with others, question your intention.
Questioning your intention helps you to decide whether it is a positive or negative comparison. Are you trying to change for the better or are you comparing just to prove that you are better than the other person?
When I was working in the corporate world, I compared myself with the great leaders in order to inspire myself to learn from them on what made them successful, for self improvement. This is a positive comparison as it made me feel motivated.
A negative comparison is when you compare with others because you are jealous of someone’s success, it makes you feel miserable and reflects on your own insecurities. Making a negative comparison leads to feelings of low self-esteem and dissatisfaction in your life. Why waste your precious energy focusing on someone else’s life rather than your own?
Focus on your strengths and celebrate your accomplishments. When you are optimistic, you will feel empowered.
Parenting taught me that as a parent, comparing my child with their siblings can have a negative effect. When my child makes comparison with my other child, they complain about unfairness. I noticed that if my response mentioned anything about the other child who was complained about, I am actually falling into the trap of comparison which leads to a never ending comparison cycle. This also causes unnecessary tension relationship between them and resentments.
Stop getting into the habit of comparing with others and embrace your own uniqueness. Compare only when you want to progress yourself and learn from others.
Everyone has their own life story, why not live yours? Be your unique self.