You control your reactions, thoughts and feelings. You are in the drivers seat and you hold all the power. The power is in your hands.
Do you know that you are a powerful person? Do you know that you are in the drivers seat in the journey of your life? There is only one you, you are truly unique. It's a nice thing to realise isn't it? No matter what you are doing you are doing a great job of being you.
How am I in control?
Perhaps you are now thinking if I am really in control of my life then why do bad things still happen to me, why does that person annoy me, why did I miss my bus or why didn't I get that promotion? Bad things still happen and things don't always go according to plan. As the song goes, 'life is a roller coaster, just got to ride it'. There will be ups and downs, highs and lows throughout your life. You are still however in control because no matter what happens you choose how to react, you choose what to do next and you control your thoughts over any given situation. We cannot blame others for our reactions. See, I told you, you are extremely powerful.
Why can't we control others?
Others may say mean or rude things to you, they may insult you or do something to disappoint or hurt you. You cannot control others and you cannot change others. You can only control yourself. It's a very important lesson to learn in life and one that relates to any type of interactions or relationships we have with others.
How often do you hear of people trying to change their partners? Comments such as, 'I wish he would, he never does this or that, why won't he do what I want'? We often fail to realise that each person has their own way of doing things and that it may be completely different to ours but that doesn't make it any less valid or wrong. It makes them who they are. They may not realise the effect it is having on us because to them it doesn't seem unreasonable. To them it may be in fact the norm.
We waste so much time and energy worrying about what others are doing and saying and not enough on ourselves. We often say ,'they upset me' or blame them for our bad moods or be angry over something they did in the past. Worrying about such things is only upsetting yourself. The other person may not even be aware of your hurt or offence. We often blame others when we feel bad, however, we control our own thoughts and minds. You can choose how you perceive things and in turn how you handle them.
Just don't forget you're in the drivers seat of your life.
Check out Part 2 where we look at how you can control your thoughts and feelings in any situation. It won't happen overnight but in time you will become the boss of your mind.