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by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo) (follow)
I'm a freelance writer living in the beautiful river town of Mannum in SA, dreaming of the day I can retire from the 9-5 to write full time.
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It can be easy to take for granted the role that a mother plays in the family. From the moment a woman becomes pregnant, she automatically assumes the larger share of responsibility for the child she carries. While her partner may feel a bit alienated during the process, the mum is the one who feels the discomfort as well as the joy of carrying this small treasure - so as mums we feel torn between obsessing about our unborn child, and making sure our partner feels included as much as possible.

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Mum is then the one who feels the pain of childbirth and from there begins the all-consuming task of keeping this new tiny person alive. This is when we need to involve dad as much as possible in the nurturing. Suddenly the whole family dynamic has changed. No longer are we a couple Ė weíre a family with a huge responsibility outside our own happiness. Weíre no longer living just for each other, but living for our child. Itís too easy at this point to begin to neglect our relationship with each other and forget to nurture each other as well.

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Whether or not a mother returns to the paid workforce after having a child is a choice that needs to be made by both parties. Itís imperative, if she does return to work, that the parenting responsibility is shared accordingly. No longer should it be completely up to mum to shop, cook, clean, nurture and do all those other myriad of tasks like remembering birthdays and school photo day.

Of course, we also have to face the reality of single parenting. ABS statistics show that 84% of single parents are mothers, and that can add a whole lot more pressure. Single dads seem to elicit a lot more concern and sympathy Ė and even admiration - than single mums.

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What mums need to know is that itís ok to question ourselves, to worry, to feel overwhelmed at times. What is also crucial to keep in mind is that we as mothers are pivotal to the family. We need to look after ourselves. Putting ourselves first every now and then is not just ok Ė itís essential.

Mother and Daughter
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If we've had a tough day, itís ok to feed the children a sandwich and a glass of milk for dinner. Itís ok to let the kids crawl into bed with us now and then in order to get a bit of extra sleep. Itís ok to miss bath night once in a while and substitute a cloth wash, and itís ok to set them some activities to do while you take some time to relax and read a book. Itís also ok to lower your standards of household cleanliness and organisation a little bit for a while, as long as itís still safe and healthy.

What we need to do most of all is to stop worrying what other people think, and stop trying to meet the unrealistic standards set by the media. As long as our children are happy and healthy, then weíre doing the job well.

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