Fatherís Day is fast approaching and itís always a good time to show our fathers how much we appreciate them as our dad. We buy them a gift Ė maybe tools, music, alcohol or a new wallet Ė all great presents, and most dads would be happy to receive them.
But how well do we really know these men? How much do we know about their childhood or teenage years, their working lives, the hopes and dreams they had for their futures?
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These men are not just dads Ė they had a whole life before we ever came along.
How about on this Fatherís Day we give our Dad a different kind of gift? How about we just spend the day with him doing what he would like to do? I think we would find that most dads would appreciate being asked. Iím sure that giving him the chance to choose how to spend the day would be a pretty terrific gift Ė and while weíre about it Ė letís get to know him a bit better, take the opportunity to have a real conversation, and learn about who our fathers really are.
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It can be easy to forget that there are other facets to people aside from the one we see here and now. Everyone has a story, everyone has had experiences in their past that have shaped the person they are today.
Some parents are reluctant to talk to their children about their past life Ė either because they donít want to appear vulnerable in front of their kids or because they donít think theyíd really be interested. We have to let them know that we really are genuinely interested.
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So how about this year we forego the tools and wallets (unless thatís what Dad specifically asks for) and instead take him somewhere heís always wanted to go. If he likes fishing Ė go fishing. If he likes museums, go there. If he likes a game of pool at the pub Ė do that, and take the opportunity to talk, and learn about the man who eventually became your Dad.