Part of mosaic at Salisbury Railway Station
I don’t know about you, but when I was younger I hated
making mistakes. I would beat myself up about ‘getting it wrong’ whether it was a test, an answer I volunteered in a class or something I was making that didn’t work out as I wanted. These days I would still rather ‘get it right’ but I am less fussed about making mistakes. Likewise when things go wrong in life and it is up to me to sort it out. There was a time when I used to worry, ‘What if things go wrong,’ but now I remind myself I have coped before so I will continue to manage.
Life experience can give a different perspective on making mistakes and those things that don’t go according to plan. Looking back, with some things where, at the time, I thought I made a major blunder, I don’t know now if I really
did make a mistake. The ‘blunder’ led me down a different path from the one planned, that’s for sure. However, without those ‘blunders’ I wouldn’t be where I am now. I wouldn’t be who
I am now. I am happy where I am now and much closer to accepting the person I have grown to become so were those ‘blunders’ so bad?
Another thing about the mistakes and the things out of my control that have gone wrong is that they help me to relate better to others. They have strengthened friendships as I have commiserated with others. My mistakes help me have empathy for others who make mistakes.
My experiences have helped me provide support for those going through similar times. In some situations people would not have turned to me for support if they thought I was perfect.
At times I have had to rely on others to support me as I have gone through a bad patch in life. Perhaps the bad patch was the result of a decision I made which turned out to be a mistake. Turning to another person for help has sometimes led to a new friendship or strengthened an existing one.
Making mistakes shows we are human
so people feel more relaxed in our company. At times we can have a good laugh with other people about mistakes and the stuff that just doesn’t work out. (It may not seem to have a funny side at the time but later on it just might.)
Life goes on. I will continue to make mistakes. Life won’t always go the way I planned. However, I have managed up until now and so I know I will continue to. Sometimes I might need some help though.
# Being Human