Image Courtesy of PANPOTE / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Just like a lotus flower, charm is beautiful.
Charm has prospering power, and those individuals who live a charm filled existence live a high quality, abundant life. Sure, like anyone with a pulse, these individuals have and will continue to have problems, challenges, setbacks and frustrations on the journey that is called life. Truth be known, it is how you overcome such adversities that matters. Irrespective of your age, gender, occupation or background; any one of us can exude charm onto self and others, and it is easier than you realise. It is going beyond respecting self and others.
Sir James Barrie's take on charm: "If you have it, you don't need anything else. And if you don't have it, it doesn't matter what else you have."
You might be wondering what charm has to do with living a life of abundance and prosperity?
Charm is all about harmony in all facets of life. The creator of our universe has given us richly all goodness to enjoy. Harmony goes beyond just peace and quiet, yet noise (internal and external) detracts from a charm filled existence.
In yoga, we're taught to move out feet within the flows without any sounds - as hard as this is for a beginner at first. With practice, your yoga experiences glide from the downward facing dog to a lunge in utter harmony and presence. In a nutshell charm is harmony, and harmony is the epitome of prosperity, of which is our birthright. Living a charmed life is a great problem solver, and significant karmic dividends are reaped.
The three areas of charm...
1. Spiritual Charm
Image Courtesy of tiverylucky / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Meditation, prayer and any other silent activity is critical to a charmed person on a daily basis.
Beauty starts from within. As within, so without. Living a charmed existence means that silence is golden to such individuals, even if it's only for a few minutes a day. People that pray are radiant...they have a great vibe about them. Our creator wants us to spend valuable time with him, and prayer is a cool, accessible way in order to do this. Meditating daily is part and parcel of living a charm filled existence, as well as time for spiritual study and growth. Attending harmonious, non-problem churches also falls into this category. Meditation and prayer rock. Such methods of silencing the mind solves many problems, and you feel lighter in nearly all cases.
2. Mental Charm
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This is all about focusing on the positive (despite being both sides, and irrespective of what shits life throws at you at any given moment) where your attitude is absolutely everything. Criticism has no place in a charmed existence. The latter is irritating, and so is fault finding in others. Believe in others; in their ability to succeed, and give them your blessings. They may consciously or unconsciously pick up on your loving embrace. Charm has no ulterior motives.
It is not what happens to you, it is how you respond or react to what happens. If you hear someone say to you "I can't do this," re-assure them that they absolutely can. Say something like "You absolutely can. Never say you cannot. I have faith in you, and you absolutely can." Be patient, friendly and encouraging. Compliment people, and be sincere.
Saying to someone once they've already succeeded, something along the lines of "see, I knew you could do it" is not living a charmed filled life. The key is to encourage people to succeed when they need that encouragement the most.
Charm is kindness. A person with charm also chats to a stranger like a friend, when they see that someone happens to be lonely and/or miserable.
"Let not kindness and truth forsake thee; bind them about thy neck; write them upon the tablet of thy heart, so shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man." (Proverbs 3:3-4)
Deception and excuse making is not living a charmed filled existence either. If you happen to slip up, do not justify by saying something like "oh the train was late," but simply apologise. "Sorry I am late. It's my fault." That way you're also taking full responsibility and accountability for your actions. This is the epitome of abundance.
Gossip is futile. Charmed people never, ever talk about people behind their backs. Gossip can unconsciously sabotage you and your abundance. Many workers complain about their bosses behind their backs. Even if you do not agree with something, that is okay. It is better to express how you really feel with that person directly, than to be a snake and speak about them behind their backs. Many people have missed out on pay raises and promotions, as their bosses in such situations can unconsciously feel such negativity towards them. On the rare occasions where I find someone else speaking about another person behind their back to me; I politely stop them in their tracks by saying "but I am so grateful that they...." and focus on something nice about that person.
"Death and life are in the power of the tongue." (Proverbs 18:21)
"Whosoever keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles." (Proverbs 21:23)
Be kind, and keep your distance.
3. Physical Charm
Image Courtesy of Carlos Porto / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Living a charmed life is all about looking after this beautiful temple all round, inside and out.
All about looking after your body as best as you can, both internally and externally. Charmed people realise that their body is a temple. I am young, strong and healthy - my body knows it, and my body shows it. The latter is an awesome mantra when it comes to physical charm.
Physical charm is also about:
Diet - eating water rich foods such as fruit and vegetables in abundance. Absolutely, life giving foods. It is okay to occasionally eat something processed.
Personal appearance - neat hair, clean and beautiful teeth so you can smile at others, and having radiant skin. This is also about dressing beautifully. Wearing beautiful jewellery too. It is about keeping your body in tip top shape.
Living in a clean, un-cluttered home.
Showing interest and enthusiasm towards other people in face-to-face encounters through your work or otherwise. Making eye contact is obvious, but a smile and speaking to other people is terms of their interests and not yours is paramount. Especially in business, it is not about you. When you show an interest in other people and in their wellbeing - even if it is simple as asking a question tailored to their needs; they will then ask you more about you and what you do. Then you have your chance to talk, but briefly and cut the pride.
With the above, keep things personal. If discussing private details in error, apologise and acknowledge that although this is personal however...you get the drift. Too much information otherwise.
Exercise - giving your body the maintenance it needs.
Remember, the world needs and wants more people like you living a charmed filled existence. One by one, we will all make a profound difference.