%%“There are some things you can’t learn at any university, except for one, the University of Life...the only college where everyone is a permanent student.”
― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly%%
Admitting that you have a made a mistake is one of the biggest step to make a change. You can only learn from a mistake after you have admitted to doing it. If you blame other people or the universe, it will be hard to learn a lesson. Admission of a mistake, even if it’s only to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away mistake and towards understanding how to learn from it. Wise people admit their mistakes easily because they know it is easier to move forward when they do.
However this advice is contradictory to cultural assumptions we have come to know and understand about mistakes and failure. One of them being that making a mistake is a shameful thing. At school and work or even among families, we are taught to feel guilty about failure and to do whatever we can to avoid mistakes. This sense of shame combined with the inability to face setbacks whilst attempting to do difficult things explains why many people give up on their goals. What’s important to remember is that the more challenging the goal is the more difficult the setbacks will be.
Nothing can replace the confidence you have in yourself. When you’ve made a mistake especially one that impacts other people, it is natural to question yourself. It is important to get past your doubts and let your past mistakes be a lesson for the future. Many people have made similar mistakes and went on to achieve great successes in the future.
The most important lesson of all is to remember that while mistakes are unavoidable part of life, it is important to learn from them especially if they teach you an important lesson. If you manage to learn from the current one, you’ll be able to learn from future ones. Progress might not be easy but you will continue to learn from your mistakes.