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Jumping To The Wrong Conclusion

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Jumping to the wrong conclusion, regardless of the domain it occurs, happens when we conjure up a conviction that something is factual, when in reality it is just an imaginary mental hypothesis of what might be true.

The inference we make is often a result of our belief systems, and our experiences, and may be shaped by how we are feeling on the day. For example, just say you are in the workplace, and you notice some people laughing. If you believe you are unlikeable or that you don’t fit in, you may deduct that people are laughing at you. This may also be the case if you have had painful past experiences, such as being bullied at school, or if you are feeling depressed, and therefore perceive things through a negative lens.

Suppose they are just laughing at a joke – or something else, but it’s nothing to do with you. Just say you go and take your conviction that people are laughing at you as being one hundred percent fact, you will probably feel pretty bad very soon. You might avoid these people thinking they don’t like you, or you may accuse someone of what you believe to be true. Either way, now not only do you feel bad, but relationships in one way or the other will be damaged.

The other parties may then go on to treat you differently – they may be hurt or confused, and sadly, what was fact might over time, if you continue to jump to the wrong conclusion, may turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy – not that they may start laughing at you, but they may walk on egg-shells around you, or even avoid you for fear of offending you. You may then jump to the same conclusion, but for another reason.

On the other hand, just say you saw these people laughing, and had some anxiety for whatever reason that you were being talked about. However, you decided to give the situation the benefit of the doubt and assume it wasn’t about you. You may go up and say hello, and just say one of these people lets you in on the joke they were sharing! You can see how the outcome would be totally different! You save yourself a lot of mental torture, and your relationships don’t suffer.

Another situation is just say you notice a mole on your skin and jump to conclusion that it is cancer. Again, the same kind of thing happens. You can either worry yourself to death, and let yourself suffer, you may also worry others, and you could be so distracted you can’t focus on work or anything else. Or you could just make an appointment to see the doctor, and get reassurance or the mole removed.

There’s enough to worry about in this world without imagining things. Next time you catch yourself jumping to conclusions tell yourself:

1. You can either treat it as absolute truth. However, unless you’re psychic, if you’re trying to create facts from invisible air, your hypothesis is nothing more than a conjuring up of your thoughts to create a reality that is true for you, but you only.

2.You can test it out if possible and get more reliable input

3.You can deal with the uncertainty, knowing there’s not everything we will always know about, but that’s just life. But, if it’s going to cause you heartache and it’s unrealistic, why put yourself through that?


# Jumping To Conclusions
# Worrying
# Anxiety
# Mind-reading
# Relationships
# Life
# Life Skills
# Uncertainty
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