Image courtesy of thelemonadepitcher.blogspot Look towards the positive, and turn your head away from the negative.
At first, I felt hesitant to even admit that I suffer depression on this hub. After all, the societal stigma that surrounds depression renders it a taboo subject. This has lessened however, which is why I am permitting myself to write about not the depression, but how I overcame it. To be more precise, I should say how I am overcoming it, because it comes back every now and then.
Also, the goal of Self Avenue is to share with others advice you think might be helpful to them, and if these tips help someone - then the sharing was worth it.
1. Don’t isolate yourself. Go out and talk to somebody. If you’re feeling down, perhaps it is good to talk to somebody non-judgemental who won’t assess you negatively for not being yourself. However, I find it more useful to not talk about the depression itself, because that is then where my energy is focussed, and not on more positive things.
2.Watch something you enjoy on television, or participate in some other activity you enjoy. This self-nurturing approach is absolutely vital. You are giving yourself the message you care about yourself, and that you deserve to feel happy.
3.Don’t try to snap yourself out of it, or change the way you're feeling. For me, this has the opposite effect, because when I try to change the way that I am feeling, it intensifies the fact through my self-conception that I do feel bad. It’s like a cold. Have you ever noticed when you stop thinking about when you want something to go away, that it actually does?
4.Listen to happy music. Avoid sad music. Even better, dance to the happy music. There is a term in psychology known self-conception, whereby we assess what we are feeling by what we are doing. I am what I do. For example, if you read a lot, you think I must enjoy reading.
5.Resist the urge to self-medicate with alcohol or overeating. Alcohol is a depressant, and will actually make you feel worse. Eating large amounts of sugar actually causes energy levels and moods to rise suddenly, followed by fatigue and depression a short time after.
6.Get out of the house. Go to the local shopping centre, or for a drive. It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but it’s better than sitting at home and ruminating about the way you feel. The other day, I was invited to a birthday party. I wasn’t going to go, and worried that I might be a wet blanket. But when I got there, I was so busy blowing up the balloons and talking to people, I had a fantastic time.
7.Know that everybody feels the way you do from time to time. It is normal to feel down from time to time.
8.Be gentle with yourself. Don’t tell yourself “I should be doing this” or “I shouldn’t feel this way.” Even though you mightn’t do any of the suggestions, then that is perfectly okay too.