I came across a great quote, but I had to read it several times to get my head around it. ‘Some luck lies not in getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you’ve got it you may be smart enough to see it is what you would have wanted, had you known,’ (Garrison Keillor, American author, storyteller and radio personality.) Sometimes we don’t get what we wanted but we get something else. Later we may realise what life handed us actually suits us better and we are so glad we didn’t get what we thought we wanted.
Four years ago I was living in a regional city where I had been for about fourteen years. I was buying a house which suited my needs. At the time I was in a job I found satisfying. The lifestyle was relaxed, I felt part of the community and had good friends. Perhaps I was in a rut but I was happy there, felt settled and had no desire to move. To be honest, I have never liked moving house anyway.
Due to circumstances beyond my control it started to look like I would need to move back to ‘the big smoke’. Moving was not what I wanted to do. At first I fought the idea. Months passed and the move became inevitable. I accepted that it was going to happen and started looking for positive aspects of making the move.
When the time came to move, things just fell into place. It was as if it was meant to be. Now I am so pleased I did move and have settled into my new home. Yes, I often think about the friends I left behind but things have worked out much better than I ever dreamed they would.
The quote is relevant to me in regard to another aspect of moving house. My new house is smaller than my previous one. Had money not been an issue I would have chosen a bigger house but now that I have adapted to a smaller living area I am finding advantages. If I knew back then what I know now, I would definitely choose to live in a smaller house.
Living in a smaller house has forced me to think about what is important to me at this stage in my life. I have had to make decisions about what to keep and what to part with. As well I have offloaded guilt tied up in holding onto items which do not have a place in my current life. In the future I won’t be accumulating so much clutter.
As in the quote, I see moving to my current home is what I would have wanted, had I known. I have had the same experience in the past in regard to other matters including jobs. Sometimes it is good to go with the flow rather than fighting what life is handing you.