“We gain strength and courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face – we must do that which we think we cannot.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
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In order to overcome the many failures I have had to deal with, I decided to view them as learning curves, with the use of the mantra “there is no failure, only feedback”, and I am now convinced that with each failure comes wisdom and knowledge, coupled with the belief that what you learn from failure is more beneficial than a success because it teaches you something new, which another win could never teach you.
For many, however, fear of failure is a very real fear, on a par with fear of criticism or fear of rejection. This results in them never being able to achieve their true potential because they are afraid to try, in case they fail. In order to overcome this particular fear let’s examine it, which will make it easier to navigate the destructive consequences it brings with it. This journey will not be easy, however, it will enable you with perseverance to open that closed door in your mind, taking you a step closer to freedom.
• Ascertain when your fear of failure was formed:
Perhaps you had overly protective parents who never let you try anything new. In your mind they did this because they wanted what was best for you, however, if you now look at the event as an outsider, you will see that it had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. This created a negative belief, which can have a big influence on how you live your life.
• Break complex matters down:
Try doing something complex that you are passionate about, and would not normally try because it is just too difficult and you think you would fail. By breaking down this complex problem into manageable pieces you will take the first steps towards succeeding. If one of these pieces fails then it is easier to see why, learn from the experience and move on to the next piece. Moving forward in this way you will see failing as a positive experience, not a negative one.
• Accept failure as a way to grow:
Failure is always inevitable regardless of whom you are, and if you sit on the fence looking for the easy option you may find there just isn’t one. Embrace your fear, jump off that fence and know that with each failure comes knowledge, strength and ultimately success.
• Mind set:
Let “fear of failure” remain what it is; a thought in your head, and when it bubbles to the surface, try to remember that it has no place in reality and use it as a stepping stone on the pathway of your life, always changing and never a permanent fixture. Free your mind by meditating. By doing so, you will remove those fear founded thoughts which are holding you back, alleviating negative feelings associated with those thoughts, resulting in the belief that those fears can be overcome.
Change your perspective and learn to grow. Take every failure as a blessing and even though this can be difficult, it will teach you to constantly improve and ultimately look at the negative periods as times of learning.
We are all afraid of something, however, it is not fear itself that will hold you back, but the decision you make because of that fear. Imagine what your life would be like if all your fears controlled it – take charge, and when you look back on your life do not let “fear of failure” be something you have always regretted – the choice is yours.