My best friend and I were outside the other night chatting away and the conversation turned to why people didn’t do the things they wanted to do. Or take chances. Or be different to the norm. Sadly, we know a lot of people between the two of us who don’t go and do whatever they want to do (within reason, obviously).
We are both firm believers in doing what we like, as long as it doesn’t hurt other people. That’s where we draw the line. You want to stay up all night reading a good book or playing video games? Then do it. You want to kiss that total stranger? Then do it. You want to have dessert for dinner? Go for it. You want to go for a long drive for no real reason? Then go fill up the tank. You want to sit on the beach at midnight, drinking tequila, chain smoking, and thinking about all of life’s little possibilities? Why the hell not.
People shouldn’t be asking why they should do something, they should be asking why not?
My friend put it perfectly the other night, “If you can’t think of a really valid reason why you shouldn’t be doing something, then there really is no reason why you shouldn’t go ahead and do it.”
In life, you end up regretting only the things you didn’t say, the risks you didn’t take, and the things you didn’t do. Seriously, think about what you regret…you don’t really regret kissing that guy that one time even though it wasn’t the best idea, you certainly don’t regret the crazy night out with your friends where you got ridiculously hammered and made a fool of yourself on the dance floor, and you don’t regret telling your boss where to shove it when he was being a total a-hole. Some of those things may have had negative side effects, but it got you to where you are now. But I bet you anything that you regret not taking that holiday, or not going home with that person one night, or maybe even not buying that really expensive but beautiful dress.
Life is short – it isn’t just a dumb cliché, it is actually really short. This year itself has absolutely flown by. So why don’t we all stop asking why we should do something, and start asking ourselves why not?