Telling the truth, is it all its cracked up to be? You decide after reading this article.
Having been a Lawyer in the past, this question does pique some interest. There are certain situations where people are impelled to lie for the sake of their freedom, and/or because they don't have the guts to tell the truth. In the legal profession and in the corporate world, I was one of those rare individuals that vowed to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
Interesting with the legal profession. If you're a defendant in court (not that I have ever been, and intend for this to never happen) you vow to tell the truth; yet to maintain your freedom in the court you might be compelled to lie. Telling the truth could have you locked up, unless those big fat lies catch up with you later.
No doubt you're familiar with the phrase that "honesty is the best policy." I wholeheartedly agree. Dishonesty catches up with you, and can hurt your loved ones. The bible states that "you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." This prosperity textbook also purports that you "lie and you will be lied to." On the line of the ten commandments "do unto others as you want them to do unto you." This includes telling the truth and likewise.
It feels good to tell the truth, yet distinctions between right and wrong can cross wires. We've all lied unintentionally, either due to a vivid memory, or a slip in a fact could come out in a presentation due to nerves, and/or just because you're human. Then again, we are humans and we are not perfect. From a philosophical christian perspective, it should not be taken for granted that Jesus died on the cross and rose again to protect us from such accidental slips. If you lie accidentally, you're covered. Tell the truth about your lies, and then you're set free.
You can still be a completely open, fully transparent and honest person, and yet still be lied to. I've been lied to in writing, as well as to my face. When your intuition thermostat is set at an all time high, no lie detectors are necessary.
I have recently caught a couple of my clients, as well as my own partner in the act of lying to me. My client mentioned that he has done this in such an office with another person, yet there is only one person working at such an office. Lier, pants on fire. This act has caused friction in this relationship, to the point that I don't even want to work with this client anymore. His loss, and not mine as I have an abundance of clients that tell me the truth. These are the clients I only want to work with.
Furthermore, my partner (who is actually a practising Lawyer today) had concealed his first name in our relationship for over six months. I caught him out, and although this has set me free, he has been forced to attend marriage counselling to return to an unhappy marriage as a result. Him lying to me has given me more time to work on my business to increase my income, and therefore to spend less time with a lying prick that I still love dearly, and of who I know loves me so much in return. Then again, I am now open to a better and honest man to come into my life as my partner.
Only time will tell whether his lying will add to or subtract from his freedom, yet it has certainly added to mine; although I am still deeply hurt and outraged by his lying. I mean, when you go out with someone, you tell the truth about who you are - irrespective as to whether or not you found your soulmate on a dating site or otherwise. Trust gets diminished otherwise.
There are snakes and sneaky people in business, and in life. Accept them for who are they are, and respect them. Even if they lie to you, their freedom will be impacted to some degree. Not yours.
Thanks for linking this to my question, Justine. I have recently been struggling with a personal dilemma. I had a friend with whom I was never completely honest. I would like to seek the person out and share with them the truth. Otherwise, I'm afraid it will eat at me.
I believe that telling the truth can set you free. It isn't always easy, but, in my experience, it can really strengthen a bond.
Justine, unfortunately we have Anti-Social Personalities around us all the time, but how do we know for sure who is going to bite us from behind? Well, there is a sure way to KNOW accurately who you can trust and who NOT. The Chart of Human Evaluation, The Cause of Suppression and The Emotional Tone Scale are the three subjects all the Social Personalities should study, so that they can protect themselves from the Anti-Social Personalities. Just add to that, Honesty and Integrity and a person can live a happier life. I wish you well. Best Regards. Eben
Thanks Eben. All different personalities abound. Yes, have studied those models in my psychological studies that is preparing me for the next phase of my business. Thank you very much for the comments, and all the best to you. Thank you for your interest in Self Avenue, Justine.
When a stranger lies to you it puts you on guard and removes trust for the association. When the person you love lies to you it tears out your heart and destroys the soul mate relationship The foundation cracks and eventually the love dies because as hard as you try when the trust leaves the loves follows it soon after. People think that they are smart when they take advantage of you by lying. We all know when someone is telling us a lie it is just not polite to accuse them so we just quietly add another brick on the wall between us.
P.S. This does not include adding colour to a story. The fish was that big Honest!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The thing I find interesting is people's perception/definition of a lie. I think most people act on the 'feel/tone' of a thing. Also - language! If someone uses non-jargon words for the situation they can get themselves into trouble.
Absolutely. What one person perceives as the truth to another would be a lie. I know, he is not the right man at the moment - this is why I am allowing spirit to bring a new beautiful, honest man into my life. Otherwise other goodies have opened up.