Home    Subscribe    Write for Us    FAQ    Contact    HubGarden    Login

Dealing with People You Don't Love So Much

by Sasha (follow)
Relationships (158)      Conflict (14)      Uncertainty (4)      Resolving (1)      Methods (1)     


girl
Image : www.weheartit.com/


I once heard a celebrity beautifully say " Hatred is just a drop in the ocean of love ".Its true isn't it.All of us have that one person whom we detest, don't ever want to see or probably don't want to ever deal with. This could be an old friend, an ex partner, a business associate or even an annoying neighbour. While the last thing on your mind is to do something good for them, how can you prevent yourself from doing anything bad? But the actual question here is, why is it that the people who we don't want to interact with are the people we are forced to deal with or face everyday ?

Wondering and walking around a lake, I rewound my life to think of those people whom I don't love so much.
Over time I realised, the more I disliked those people, the more I had to deal with them. So I learnt not to hate anyone, and to not let them affect my happiness quotient in life.

Word of silence
While someone might not be in your good books, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are a bad person. If you hear some good stuff about them through friends, just listen. Over time your friends might realise about that person through their own experiences . If you had to say things otherwise to these friends, you probably would feel good for the time being, but eventually it will begin to worry you. So the best to do is to leave the judgement to others and not spread negative publicity.

Let the steam out
Some people just get on your nerves. The best is to vent out your feelings with a good friend or partner and talk about it. The more you speak out the better it would be. The more you keep it within you, you are probably building up like a pressure cooker waiting to burst, you surely don't want that.

Ctrl Alt Del
Simply log off. The least you can do is stay away from this person. The more distance you maintain, the better it is. But at times when you have to face them, simply shut down .Don't let the words/facial expression or comments get into your system or sub conscious mind. Try the kung fu method and block it right before it bothers you.

While these are few ways that have worked for me, there are probably different other ways that would work for you. Either way, dealing with people you don't love much can be stressful but it shouldn't affect your happiness. These people are just being who they are and for some reason they did not fit your expectation framework. So having to hate them is probably letting them be in your life though you don't want them.



# Conflict
# Relationships
# Uncertainty
# Resolving
# Methods
I like this Article - 13
More Articles by Sasha
While in some part of the world winter is over , in Australia winter is just on the rising horiz...
99 views
We have all heard about selective amnesia
229 views
People are more important than things
220 views
Long time ago, when I was in my crowded MBA classes, there was one session with an industry lead...
119 views
We all love mum, and want to make her extra special on Mothers Day as a pay back for all that sh...
305 views
You have had a busy day at work
594 views
view all articles by Sasha
Articles by Sasha on Other Hubs
Cocolina is a beautiful homeware store located in a shopping complex in the north of Sydney
7 likes
ID: 12784
[ Submit a Comment ]
Trending Articles
I lived the city life and Iím sick of it
1042 views
When people hear the word 'amnesia' they worry because they know it means forgetting things and th...
91 views
New words are constantly coming into existence
87 views
Sometimes you just feel bleah
88 views
Many of us, at some time in our lives, recognise the value of overhauling certain habits that no...
82 views
Whether you are thinking about goals to get things done or making a difference in the world, the l...
81 views
Recently a blog post I read made me think about the phrase 'a waste of time'
72 views
Many of us fear to speak our mind because we care about what others might think of us or say abo...
6410 views
Money gives us all more choices in life, and is a tool to serve other people
2405 views
In this day and age, many people hire professional escorts because they what to try something ne...
12254 views
Categories
 
Copyright 2012-2018 OatLabs ABN 18113479226. mobile version