Choice is good, but as long as you are able to rationalise the reason for it. Choice is synonymous to challenges, leaving you to deal with them, and there isn't any app or tool you could use off the shelf to personalise it to your situation and help you make a decision.
Decision making is an appalling process. There are many ways and techniques you could use, but what has best worked for me is my gut feeling. All the rationale, logic and practicality goes right out of the window. But the difficult part here is, when you know what you need to do inside, your system fights with you, and will want you to go the other direction. There are some questions that will pop up, and as long as you are able to answer them truthfully and honestly; the decision making process slowly starts looking petite. Be it in choosing a job or your life partner, you just know what you need.
Another issue with choices is confusion. Confusion manifests itself not allowing you to go any further in your decisions. You will have to make a protocol to ease the process. Remember, confusion precedes clarity .For instance, a fantastic boss whom I once worked for, very clearly told me; I could offer you a location of your choice or a role of your choice. When he broke it down to me that way, my confusion slowly went away, and it became clear what I wanted. So a protocol, an acceptance to reality that you don't get everything makes the difference.
Fear of Uncertainty :
The future is unknown to all of us for some unexplained reason. When you have a choice, there is a fear of uncertainty of your future that stops you from making a firm decision. Be it in a job or choosing to do what you love or live with someone you love. You unfortunately cannot predict the future precisely. You can only make an assessment with what makes you happy today. And remember, everything and everyone will change.
Let it take eternity, but never make a choice or decision because of peer pressure, society pressure or pressure of time. Some decisions are for life, and it is ok to take as much time you want or need.
You could have many other issues related to choice, and people have asked me to write down my choices; weigh the pros and cons and to talk to someone close to me; but what really helped me was answering some questions truthfully, and the choices became an option which wouldn't suit me.
It is always tough to make a decision; but at the end of the day, believe what you have decided is for good.
Though I am well pass 60 years and have rich experience with life, the articles help me to think and understand certain situations better. I think illness sometimes make us weak and reading these help you decide better as if somebody is talking to you. Thank you Self Avenue for publishing them. all the best to the author.