Was crying when partner walked in.
What's the matter?
Everyone's a bastard.
Right. They are too.
Even the things that ain't people is bastards.
True.
He's walking around.
I relay how nothing went right today. Could not draw, write, work. Burnt myself twice on the stupid oven. My stupid clothes don't fit.
I can hear him giggling in the background.
Slipped on the stupid step. Stupid washing not done. Too stupid. A stupidly bastardy day. A bastardy stupid day.
I think I get it - you've not heard from the kids for a while.
Yeeesssss! And I miss my Mum and Dad. And you're laughing at meeee. (Wail).
In all my moaning, I've missed that he's run a bath for me. There's a tray with a cuppa on it. And the phone.
Fix it, he says. Pick up the phone.
Right, I say. And I do.
Hello darling! How are you? How are those babies? Oh yes! I'm fine, really good... bla de bla bla bla.
Can hear him giggling again, and I start to giggle too. He loves Shortbread - making him two batches tomorrow.
Feeling Sorry for Yourself
Is allowed. It works for me. Having a good old moan in the presence of someone safe - who won't think you're a raving lunatic. Someone who knows you. Crying is good.
You can do little things to lift the mood
Pampering. Leisurely bath with candles. Romance yourself. You deserve it.
Do your nails. If you're going to be mess, look good doing it.
Small treat - get that magazine you didn't buy with the shopping last week. Glass of wine.
Lessons from this story
Sometimes you can't see an easy fix for something that's bothering you.
Let a significant other help you (boss you about). Trust someone.
Recognise kind actions from others. Acknowledge them.
Can you fix the problem? Is it in your control? Can you make it better? Can you look at it from another view?
Sometimes you just need someone to acknowledge how you're feeling.
Image: "Frustrated 17/52" by M Yashna is licensed under CC BY 2.0
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