Heading in a new direction starts by creating new beliefs... Image courtesy of Stuart Miles / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
According to Collin’s Dictionary, to affirm means to 1. Declare to be true, or 2. To confirm or uphold. When we affirm something we are saying it exists, and it is present. Affirming conditions we would like to be true in our lives moves them from the realm of invisibility and wishful thinking to being factual.
Before we can manifest anything in our lives, we have to first believe in our minds that not only it can be, but that it is. Without belief, everything remains in the territory of the whimsical.
Fortunately, our mind can be quite easily trained. With enough repetition, a statement that would have slipped through the cracks of being “just silly” or in no way possible, begins to take form as being real. Affirmations, or statements of what we wish to be true, are a powerful way of bringing about changes in our feelings, beliefs and circumstances.
Thoughts create our feelings and our behaviours. So if the thought isn’t there, or is in opposition to the feelings you are experiencing or the behaviours you are exhibiting; then change just isn’t going to take place. The only precursor to our thoughts? Our beliefs…
It therefore all starts with retraining our minds to believe new things. We need to reinforce the beliefs that are the necessary precursors to what we see in our lives.
There are a few “rules” for want of a better word when creating affirmations.
1.It will take time. You may have been carrying around a belief for twenty years, maybe more. It therefore is not going to dissolve in a matter of even a week. Usually a year of dedicated change to ones thinking is needed. However, don’t despair. You will start to see changes in your beliefs earlier than that.
2.It needs to not contain any 'negatives.' Tell yourself not to think of a pink elephant. What are you thinking of? Instead have your affirmations contain only positives, only what you do want to see manifest, not what you don’t.
3.Keep them in the present. If you tell yourself “I will be happy,” your mind is just going to ask when? As soon as you say, “I am happy” your mind begins to think of ways to make your reality a fact in the now.
4.Make them realistic. If you tell yourself “I am now a millionaire” and you have always been bankrupt, you probably will reject the affirmation outright subconsciously. Instead, you may tell yourself "I am now learning to budget more effectively."
5.If you have a spiritual belief, affirmations don’t have to replace them when asking about your desires. They are just a tool to help you realise your dreams earlier.
6.There are a number of ways to use affirmations to change your subconscious beliefs. You can write them down, however, it will need to be every day, or at least every second day. Repetition and consistency are key. Otherwise it’s like watering a garden only once per week. The flowers may die in between. Perhaps you could write them three times each - whatever you know you will persist with is the best way to go. Or, alternatively, you can decide that you are going to be vigilant about monitoring your thoughts, and rebutting those that are not helpful to you. Whenever you hear yourself say “I am stupid,” immediately retort with the thought “no, I am able and competent.” Even if you challenge one negative thought per day, which is not hard to do, you will see results within a year.
The circumstances in our lives are a reflection of our beliefs. This is because these then create thoughts and feelings, which create the decisions we make and the way we behave. Fact - our beliefs have taken a long time to form. Fact - they will take a while to dislodge and replace with helpful beliefs, if they were self-destructive. Fact - it is possible. Fact - it will take time. Finally, fact - it is worth it!!