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Do you find yourself apologising for being less than perfect? Do you worry that you are not measuring up to others in certain ways? Well trust me, you're not alone.
For years I felt embarrassment about my less-than-perfect cooking skills; my not-so-pristine house, and many other perceived shortcomings that mostly existed in my head. It’s true, I'm not a great cook, and I don't enjoy having to feed others; but it has only been in recent years that I have learned to stop apologising for it and to actually admit that it is not one of my stronger points. From the moment I confessed this little secret, I felt the pressure lift and actually learned to joke about it with others and to let go of the need to torture myself.
These feelings are true of a lot of women of my era; those of us that were raised with the old-fashioned notion that a woman’s role was to be a good wife, mother and housekeeper while her husband went out to work and earned the money. While that may be simple for some, for me it was a constant struggle to fit that mould.
When I look back now, though, I realise that my lack of domestic skills has never hampered me in any aspect of life. My children all survived despite a diet of simple, plain food and a house full of clutter. I can manage to hem a pair of trousers, but don’t ask me to make a garment from scratch. I have a brown thumb when it comes to gardening, and you will often find unwashed dishes on my sink, but it no longer bothers me. My life is full of other things that are much more important to me, and my home is a happy one.
I’ve learned that what I lack in culinary and home-making skills, I make up for in lots of other areas. I'm pretty tech savvy and creative. I’m good at my job, and I like to think that my writing skills aren't too shabby.
Providing that we acknowledge our positive attributes and the skills we do possess - no matter how diverse, we shouldn't worry about the areas in which we don't excel.