One of the challenges we sometimes face when caring for ourselves is to appreciate our victories. They don't have to be big victories, like winning a gold medal or even a victory that's others notice.
Each day we experience a range of events and things that happen to us. We can very easily only focus on those things that go wrong or the mistakes we make. By shifting this focus to also notice and highlight the many little victories along the way we will feel more confident and more balanced as an individual.
Seeing our lives through a victories lens will help us to take more risks, keep energised to try again and be more gentle on ourselves when some things don't go so well. At those times we will remind ourselves that we don't have to be perfect and can't always get everything right. We also can't have control over everything that affects us.
Depending upon our life circumstances at any particular time we might set the bar of what we consider to be a victory lower or higher. When we feel unwell, just getting out of bed to do the things we have to do can be a victory that we should be proud of. Better still asking for help to do those things or calling in sick to work might be a victory if it's not what we would usually do. It takes courage to admit that we can't do what others expect of us. We can tell ourselves that we have the right to care for ourselves and not go to work or to ask for help to do important things that still need to be done, like caring for children.
At other times we might be feeling more confident, have opportunities at our door and we decide to take on something new and different. This can be a victory because it also takes courage and a capacity to plunge into the unknown and take on extra responsibilities or learn new skills.
Between the extremes of taking care for ourselves when sick or taking on new roles, there will be many little victories that come into play each day as we go about our daily chores and routine. Getting through chores or getting kids to school on time can be victories. No one else might notice but we know that our efforts have paid off. That is what celebrating our victories is all about. Recognising our own efforts and appreciating our ability to get through the day. This will help us to feel cared for and self nurtured.
I agree it is important to acknowledge our small personal victories. Often the victory wouldn't be important to someone else because they have different fears and find different things challenging. For me a personal victory is whenever I have a go at doing something new that involves any type of technology. It is a double victory if my attempt is actually successful.