Developing ourselves can be an ongoing part of our life journey. It can be a way of continuing to grow
and identify those things that are most important and valuable to us. It can be learning new skills and discovering new interests or ways of seeing the world.
Developing ourselves can happen as a solitary pursuit, something we do for ourselves by ourselves. Or it can be something we do with others, learning from them as we go and sharing the experience together. Finding time away for ourselves can be challenging when we have busy lives. Even spending time alone can be a way of developing our capacity to sit with ourselves and not be distracted by others. It can be confronting if we are usually spending our time with others to be by ourselves and comfortable with our company, trusting that we will be able to fend for ourselves and that our company is enough.
Developing ourselves doesn’t mean giving up everything that has come before. Everything we’ve learned and valued along the way. Rather, it means building on that, deepening our understanding of ourselves, exploring new areas and continuing to grow as a person. If we reflect back on how we were 5, 10 or 20 years ago we may notice some constants. Some things that haven’t really changed. We may be aware of some things that are very different. Things we have let go of, new things we have picked up or taken on board.
Developing ourselves involves reflecting on who we are, what we want, what is important to us and also what is not so important. What we can give up on. What we might pick up instead.
Developing ourselves could mean finding new ways to connect with the things that are most important to us. To rediscover passions we have left behind in the busy-ness of life. To plan for the future and think about what we want things to be like in the next period of our lives. Not just let it happen but to take charge and be proactive.
Developing ourselves might mean being able to look back on our lives and notice the things we have done proactively, the things we wanted to do and found a way to do, of not having regrets but knowing that we lived our life in the richest way we could.