Many people find they are happier if they decide they want to feel that way. Rather than dwelling on the negative, they look for the good. Instead of believing they can only be happy if something grand happens, you know a lottery win, becoming the manager or going on a world trip, they enjoy the small things. By the way, just in case you haven't heard it elsewhere, that lottery win wouldn't bring long term happiness anyway.
There is plenty of sound advice about ways to increase your happiness including looking after your health, spending time with family and friends, helping others and feeling gratitude. Other tips which may work for you include -
Notice the 'ordinary joys' Take note of the ordinary joys in life instead of waiting 'until...' to be happy. Enjoy the cup of coffee or tea that is in front of you this moment rather than thinking how much you will enjoy a cuppa at a fancy cafe'.
Make your own 'mini special event' This could be a cup of hot chocolate or coffee with something extra added such as whipped cream, a dash of liqueur or some cinnamon. There are plenty of recipes online. Make this an occasional treat so it continues to be special and to avoid feeling guilty if it is high in calories and you need to watch your weight. Other ways to make eating a meal special include putting a vase of flowers or a candle on the table or using a lace tablecloth.
Simplify your life If you feel overwhelmed, try making your life simpler. This could be
by decluttering. Is it possible to reduce the hours you spend at a paid job? Can you delegate some responsibilities to others? Are there ways to reduce the amount of housework you need to do?
Decluttering is one way to simplify your life Image by Marie Vonow
Choose meaningful goals Work towards a goal that is important to you, not something other people (or a magazine, the internet etc) says people should aim for. Goals can be small, they don't have to be on a grand scale.
Don't make a habit of comparing yourself Don't compare yourself with others, don't compare your life to theirs. You may end up feeling superior to others or inferior. Neither is helpful.
Share stories of nice or funny events Yes, sometimes one needs to vent but more often make a point of talking about something nice or funny that has happened rather than concentrating on the negative
Make others laugh As well as telling a joke to someone you could post a funny postcard to a friend for no reason except to make the person laugh. As people rarely receive a postcard in their letter box these days it will probably have more impact than a funny email.
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Find a hobby If you don't already have a hobby, take up something you enjoy. It could be something creative or a physical activity of some sort.
There are many ways to increase your happiness but perhaps you are already happy enough. Some people feel you can end up making yourself less happy by trying too hard. The nineteenth century American writer, Nathaniel Hawthorne, said, 'Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.'
However, if that butterfly of happiness never or rarely lands on you, perhaps you need to talk to your doctor as you could be suffering Depression.